Living in the present moment seems so simple, although it is actually very difficult and complicated. Honoring our past without regret or looking to the future with no expectations isn’t something that comes naturally or constantly for most people. Some simple decisions to keep in mind while you refine your intentions: Don’t let yourself justify these choices or intentions at any time, these actions are guaranteed to manifest as regrets within a few years.

  • Stop Pretending To Be Anyone Besides Yourself – You already are a person! Inherent in this definition is that you make mistakes but also have unlimited potential for love and growth. If you feel you aren’t measuring up then I have to ask whose measuring tape are you using?! You don’t have to be perfect to be human, in fact you wouldn’t be if you were! Whatever fears or shortcomings you perceive in yourself that make it so you won’t show your true face, now is the perfect time to address them. You should never be afraid to be who you are. I don’t mean to blow your cover but normally when we’re trying to fool others about ourselves we only fool ourselves.
  • Don’t Let Others Choose Your Life For You – Always accept rosy advice but don’t neglect the salty advice. You are the only one with your life experience, so you are the most qualified to make decisions that best interest you. However, what’s best for us is sometimes hard to see, so don’t ignore advice from those you respect. In the end, every decision is your responsibility, so ponder them carefully.
  • Not Being Aware – I also want to say, be as aware as you can. As you look around, you may notice little but become aware of how little you know. This is as fine as any place to start. What matters is what you do with your awareness: be productive and kind with the information you gather.
  • Keeping Negative People in Your Life – Don’t let your unhappiness pave the way for your friend’s happiness. If there are people in your life that you don’t have mutual respect with, now is a great time to ask why. The people around you should be helping you grow and achieve new things. If the people closest to you are stuck in cycles of unproductivity, you are liable to get stuck there as well.
  • Stop Avoiding Personal Growth – This one everyone from yogis to self-help writers is guilty of. When shown an avenue of growth or change, many of us will try to protect our methods with highly personalized justifications. I’ve come to answer my resistance to growth with the understanding that I can initiate change on my terms or wait for the universe to push me toward it.
  • Giving Up – NEVER GIVE IN AND NEVER GIVE UP. That’s not to say never compromise and never take a break. I would strongly encourage both of these actions with constant zeal. You will have to restructure goals when your resources change or vice versa. Taking a breather now and again will help you see when elements in your life are shifting and provide the space to shift with them.
  • Not Speaking From the Heart – Your understanding of truth is beautiful and unique to your experiences. Never has there been or will there be a person like you, so please tell us what you think! Interject those great ideas into conversations and don’t be afraid to express yourself. When you speak from the heart you bypass many of the lies and mental boundaries we hang ourselves with.
  • Over Analyzing Everything? – Well stop it. Your brain will thank you. Take a breath. Then a couple more. Where are you presently? Is there something you should be doing? Then do it. If you are dealing with a recurring fixation or fear then take a break specifically to plan what you can with the resources you currently have at hand. If this pattern returns remember your plan and realize you’re already doing everything you can to fix it.
  • Why Do You Keep Procrastinating? – This is a serious question. Do you have a good reason? If you smiled or mentally stuttered when you read this then no you don’t. So, why put it off? Your honest answers to this will reveal volumes of your subconscious intentions. I suggest writing them down, as you’ll be less likely to bully the paper. Don’t beat yourself up for putting off your responsibilities, either. That is just more wasted energy.
  • Stop Being Unproductive! – I’m not saying you have to always put your nose to the grindstone. There are many options available to us everyday and we don’t always say yes to the more productive option. Instead of you and your roommates watching TV why not make dinner or try some YouTube yoga? Try new things to expand your horizons, or at the least, vary your experiences.